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FACT SHEETS
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If Your Child has been Sexually Abused
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Taking Care of Your Child
After Sexual Assault

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A Child's Sexual Behavior-
When Should You be Concerned?

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Who Are Sexual Offenders?
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Information for Parents
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Date Rape/ Acquaintance Rape

Date Rape/Aquaintance Rape

Date/Acquaintance rape is forced, unwanted intercourse with a person you know. It can be with someone you know casually, with someone you have dated a few times, or even with someone you are having a close relationship with.

FACTS:

  • 90% of date rapes involved drugs or alcohol.
  • Most women are assaulted by men they know.
  • Approximately 44% of the victims are under the age of 18.
  • Females aged 12 to 34 are at highest risk. Girls ages 16-19 are four times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault (2000 NCVS).
  • 9 out of 10 rape victims are female; 1 out of 10 are male
  • Although date rapists are usually men, sexual assault does occur in both lesbian and gay male relationships .
  • Only about 16% of the rapes (1 out of 6) are reported to the police.

COMMON REACTIONS TO DATE/ACQUAINTANCE RAPE:

Rape is a degrading, humiliating experience.
Frequent reactions are:

  • Shock: feeling numb
  • Disbelief: feeling as if it couldn’t have happened;
    “it wasn’t really rape”
  • Shame: feeling dirty, like something is wrong with you
  • Guilt: feeling it’s your fault; you did something wrong;
    you caused it
  • Depression: feeling tired and hopeless;
    feeling out of control
  • Fear: of reprisal from your assailant;
    of being pregnant or contracting HIV
  • Anxiety: physical symptoms, like difficulty breathing,
    sleep disturbances, nausea.
  • Anger: wanting to cause harm to the person who hurt you.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU EXPEREINCE DATE/ACQUAINTANCE RAPE:

It’s up to you to decide who and what to tell…but here are some things to consider:

  • Get to a safe place
  • Call the police. A crime has been committed
  • Call CASARC for help
  • Call a friend or family member to be with you
  • Do not bathe, douche or change clothes
  • Write down as much as you can remember about the circumstances of the assault and the identity of your assailant
  • Seek counseling and information

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